"But I paid for dinner so..." Part 2

It's unfortunate to see a girl giving away a lot of herself to a guy in the mere hope that he'll give her a second glance, and maybe a first date. But do you know what's equally unfortunate? When a girl allows herself to be guilted into giving away favors after the date. I heard about a girl once who was pressured into her first kiss by a guy who thought she owed it to him after the fifteen dollar plate he bought her. When she resisted he said something like, "But I paid for dinner so... you owe me." Timid girl that she was, she gave in. I heard of another girl who nearly got raped because a guy who had taken her out for around nine months felt he had the right to sleep with her. His rationale was that he had paid for all the dinners, movies, and shows they went to. After nine months of shelling out bucks from his own wallet he felt he deserved a little somethin'. And when she wasn't willing to give it, he decided to take it. He was unsuccessful, but unfortunately this is not an isolated case. Some girls now demand to go dutch for every date they go on with a new prospect. Other girls refuse to accept gifts from any guy, boyfriend or otherwise, for fear of the unspoken cost.

This is unfortunate. No girl should have to be afraid of accepting chivalry from a guy because of what he might require of her. No girl should have to fight off a guy because she made the mistake of accepting dinner. But I applaud the girls who have stuck to their guns, and all the guys who've been gentlemanly enough to make sure another girl doesn't have to. But it gets worse...

Some girls, believe it or not, accept the demands of miserly males, believing somehow that, "Well, he did pay for dinner, it's the least I can do..." But think about it ladies, if dinner is the cost of a kiss (and nine months of movies the bottom line for something more...) then what does that make you? If he believes he has somehow bought your body (lips, whatever...) then he's treating you like a whore. Think about that. No matter what other people think about you, no matter what your reputation is or what you think people expect of you, you need to respect yourself. You are worth so much more than a feature film and a large popcorn. Don't let any guy tell you that you owe him anything.